5 Facts About Human Behavior Everyone Should Know, Singh Bhai

Note to reader: I found these helpful to improve my communication skills.

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1. People Believe What They Already Believe — Even If It’s Wrong

Once people form an opinion, they’re done…..

This happens because people don’t actually form opinions based on logic. They form opinions first, and then hunt for justifications afterward.

This is why arguing on the internet is a waste of oxygen.

People will ignore any proof that doesn’t fit their worldview.

2. Most Arguments Aren’t About What They Seem to Be About

Ok, so, two people are yelling about who left the kitchen light on. You think, wow, big deal, electricity isn’t even that expensive. But what’s actually happening? A whole mess and they know deep down, it’s never about that.

Instead of, “I feel like you ignore me,” or, “I don’t think you respect what I do around here,” people are throwing accusations about a 40-watt bulb.

3. People Only Remember How You Made Them Feel, The Words Are Just Background Noise

Most people’s memory is garbage nowadays.

That’s because our brains are not efficient at filing textbook kind of information. It doesn’t store “this person said this on this date.” It stores vibes.

So, if you want to be remembered in a good way, just don’t stress over finding the exact right words. Just don’t make people feel like garbage.

4. The More Choices You Offer, The Less People Decide

A grocery store sets up a jam-tasting station. Sometimes they offer six flavors, sometimes twenty-four.

More people stop at the station when there are 24 flavors.

But more people buy when there are six.

This is called The Paradox of Choice, an experiment from a very insightful book written by Psychologist Barry Schwartz.

This is why people can’t pick a show on Netflix for their next meal.

Too many options make us panic. and end up choosing something safe — or nothing at all.

5. Always Give Someone a Way Out, Saving Face Defuses Disagreements

So, you’re arguing with someone. You have every fact lined up. You could absolutely bury them under a mountain of proof.

And yet.

Instead of backing down, they dig in harder. Get defensive. Maybe even double their nonsense just to avoid admitting they were wrong.

This is not about facts anymore. This is about ego survival.

People will burn bridges, friendships, and their own dignity just to avoid looking dumb.

Bonus: If You Want Someone To Accept A Critique, Sandwich It Between Compliments

People hate being told they’re wrong.

But they accept criticism better when it’s sandwiched between compliments.

If you throw a compliment in first, they will relax just enough to hear what you’re about to say.

For example:

Terrible approach: “This is bad.”

Slightly better approach: “This is bad, but at least you tried.”

Best approach: “This is a great start. The concept is strong. Just one little tweak might push it even further.”

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